tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2306270452043471330.post1579295213684912011..comments2019-09-22T19:23:44.707-07:00Comments on The Life & Times of The Millers: On Being A Good FriendKarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05837471695832312138noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2306270452043471330.post-8779520488754271812013-02-28T08:19:23.627-08:002013-02-28T08:19:23.627-08:00Thanks for this post Kara! Spot on. I read it a wh...Thanks for this post Kara! Spot on. I read it a while back but was thinking about it again the other day, and even wrote about it. http://megsstudylog.blogspot.com/2013/02/caregiving-and-friends.html<br /><br />I just keep telling myself, "To everything there is a season..." =)Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00829215628766931592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2306270452043471330.post-49327304458033558362013-02-22T11:55:09.895-08:002013-02-22T11:55:09.895-08:00Sarah & Leah, I definitely hear you on differe...Sarah & Leah, I definitely hear you on different parenting styles! We've had the talks after spending time with others about how, "We don't do that in our family." ;) Thira & Lindsey: I know!! So glad we aren't alone in this! Shannon, I love you. Thank you for your sweet comment :) We are like best friends that have never spent more than a few hours with each other in real life! Matt & I feel the same way. When the kids go down, we finally get to talk and just BE. I feel bad about not having people over for dinner more often, but you're right. This is the season for kids & I shouldn't feel bad about that! Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05837471695832312138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2306270452043471330.post-11618588659118509282013-02-20T18:28:46.156-08:002013-02-20T18:28:46.156-08:00This was such a wonderful post! I feel like we are...This was such a wonderful post! I feel like we are just in that weird in-between phase in life where it's hard to just get together with friends because our kids need so much of our attention! Mitch and I were just talking about how bad we feel that we are always turning down requests to do things (either me with other moms or us as a couple) because during the day it's too tough being pregnant and having two kids, or in the evenings we just want some time for the two of us because we're so tired after the day! My closest friends here are the ones where we can just let our kids play together and relax and chat. However those opportunities are so much fewer than they used to be when I only had 1 baby! <br /><br />Thank you for writing your thoughts and I ASSURE you you're not alone! It's so weird for me to not be hanging out with friends as much as I used to, especially for people like us who are very social. This is the season for our kids and we can't feel bad about that! You are the best momma and I wish we lived closer because you are the best. xoxoShannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11095418173883109757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2306270452043471330.post-61579287833236114852013-02-17T09:21:23.341-08:002013-02-17T09:21:23.341-08:00This made me cry. You have NO idea how accurate th...This made me cry. You have NO idea how accurate this is for me too.Lindseynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2306270452043471330.post-84388094083599114022013-02-10T22:55:50.294-08:002013-02-10T22:55:50.294-08:00Well written Kara, us females are on emotional rol...Well written Kara, us females are on emotional roller coasters! ;)Thirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03029045834097103403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2306270452043471330.post-18200288177655909412013-02-09T22:12:05.167-08:002013-02-09T22:12:05.167-08:00thank you for writing this! This also me! I've...thank you for writing this! This also me! I've always had just a few close friends, but since kids, also 6 years, I rarely talk to even my best friend sice kindergarten. We have become very different in our oarenting styles and though I love raising my kids more than anything, I sometimes feel like I gave no frinds at all. I know it's my own fault for not keeping in touch, but I try to remember there will be plenty of time for talking and lunch dates when the kids are older and less needy. Which will be all too soon. Love the quote!Leah Mastilockhttp://sandytoescreations.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2306270452043471330.post-60130230844562840792013-02-09T18:10:36.083-08:002013-02-09T18:10:36.083-08:00I have the same problem you have, I have no friend...I have the same problem you have, I have no friends in Ohio....I would say my biggest complaint is no one parents the same way I do, and that makes it hard....I can not stand hanging around ladies who yell at their kids all the time, or sit them in front of the play video games for hours.......errr....SARAHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16157813248779552734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2306270452043471330.post-78476723325936957832013-02-09T14:51:00.969-08:002013-02-09T14:51:00.969-08:00Stacy, I am so glad you feel the same way! I alway...Stacy, I am so glad you feel the same way! I always want to hang out with you more but then bad friend syndrome sets in :) It would be so cool if we lived across the street from each other! Ada is always asking about Kate. Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05837471695832312138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2306270452043471330.post-8641857868861049332013-02-09T09:02:35.811-08:002013-02-09T09:02:35.811-08:00Kara this is me EXACTLY!!! You couldn't have ...Kara this is me EXACTLY!!! You couldn't have said it better. I have actually been thinking about it a lot lately. Since I've had children (6 years ago) I have only had one good friend. One that, when she came over and the house was a disaster, I wouldn't be embarrassed. One that I could say anything to and not feel like being judged. This friend lives in Boise and me, being the bad friend that I am, have only talked to her maybe 3 times in the year and a half we have lived here. Lately I have really been craving another (one or multiple) true friend. I started to think of how we became such good friends and I feel the biggest factor was that we lived SO close. She lived across the street and it made it easy to stop by for 1/2 an hour until the kids got fussy or for four hours if the kids were good. The flexibility of being with friends but having "home" so close allowed us the time to build that bond. I feel that this is why I haven't been able to make good friends here. Everyone is so spread out - I live "way up in the mountains" and feel like no one ever wants to come all the way up here just to hang out in our small apartment. Then on the other hand some days I don't have the energy to get all the kids ready to go into Santa Cruz because with Austin in school, once I go out I usually stay out the whole day and that can be daunting with 3 kids. It also doesn't help that there are no play places for small children here. It would be so nice if there was somewhere, indoors, that I could take the kids and let them run and play while the mommy's could talk. <br /><br />Anyway, sorry for the rammbling comment, I just want to say that I too enjoy being a mom and my mom has also said the same thing as yours "there is a time and a season for everything, right now is to be a mom. You will have time for (sewing, friends, workingout etc) later.) And while I understand and try to embrace it some days I know would just be that much easier with a friend. It's funny to ready your post because I too feel like I don't make friends easily and when I get together I too do a lot of talking. Isn't Brittni amazing? She always asks so many questions and I could talk and talk, I have to always remind myself to STOP and try asking her a question! Anyway, I am so glad you posted this, it's nice to know I'm not the only one!<br /><br /><br />Stacy Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16084957029506362190noreply@blogger.com